I am not a supermom

Not even close. I love my kids but damn, motherhood aint easy! Having twins is definitely a challenge and having Bubba on the spectrum means that challenge is even greater. Bubba is definitely high functioning which I thank the powers that be for every day. I am not one of those autism warrior moms. Nope. I do not want the test of having a child who is aggressive, smears feces, and is a threat to his sister. I know that it would be a test I would totally fail. In fact, I recently got admonished because I stated that if I had a child like that, I would put them in residential care. Oh my, is that ever something it is not okay to say, especially on a page about autism. I was accused of being a bad mom, and that just pissed me off. Why is it that in some communities dealing with autism, it seems like people feel that children on the spectrum should be loved MORE than their neuro typical siblings? That seems absurd to me. I love Bubba and Little equally, and I would never allow one to put the other's safety or happiness at risk. If that makes me a bad mom, so be it. I guess I just don't view autism as being a gift, or "sparkly" or some fantastic dream. I view it as something that my son will have to fight through, and I will always be there to help him. Autism doesn't make him special, he is special to me because he is my son. Both my husband and I expect the same things from him that we expect from his sister, we don't go out of our way to make things easier for him. I don't know if we're right or wrong in doing this, but it's our way and it seems to work...at least for now.